scary to admit

June 11th, 2008

it’s scary to say, for fear that things come crashing down or of some divine retribution but things have been really good. yes, there are bumps but we have been able to work them out, even if i get upset and she gets angry. so much love, even if i still get triggered by things. after all the doom and gloom it is very nice, and so interesting how hard it is to admit and how easy to go to the hurt place still, and how that is a choice that is made each time. It is so hard to consciously choose the good side and not tell your self a bad story. True Self vs False Self, as Mary says.

other stuff: may and nick’s anniversary is the same date as leo’s birthday. playing chess with alec and leo last night, and leo was helping me… “why are you helping him?,” asked alec. “because he’s my dad,” very matter-of-fact. “don’t tell philip,” said jodi later.

it is a lovely thing to be able to say you love your wife completely.

tracy again today, and larry. and a new ac needed out at manor.

hard but good

May 22nd, 2008

trust love, trust love. trying hard to let her be her. without any comment.

mary, session 4

May 19th, 2008

how deep, how profound, how wonderful. the teachings this weekend were amazing, rules for life that we as yogis, says mary, must strive to live by, and certainly they have helped me turn a corner. she is coming back in the fall, it seems. here is a summary, some points.

the main new bio-mechanical thing for me was the instruction to take the front of the underside, behind the ball, forward, and the back, in front of the heel, back. This, when applied equally along both sides of each foot, grounds you deeply in the asana, and also fires up the leg muscles. brilliant. we also talked about softening in the pelvis, something that had started to come to me in my practice.

we moved with the exhale… moving with the breath is a conscious choice to follow spirit. we follow the breath. we must find the om in the breath, the power, the prana in the breath. (we did not chant, mary talked about the competition to make the longest om.) the breath removes pranic blocks and samskaras.

It is not about what you do in the pose, it is who you are in the pose. trust your breath, your wisdom, not the teachers’. hug in because you love yourself. breathe deeply and trust. strength and energy come from the wisdom in the breath, not from your muscles. breathe in through the legs and

pelvis, out through the nose. this helps deal with the feeling of stuck breath in the chest or throat, was how i understood this.

Yoga is a practice of love. a trust walk towards the inner self. and the false self is so tricky, it can disguise itself as the true self. you have to love the false self too… “hey, you old false self, i see you, i know you…”

the heart will not open when it is told to. when you feel safe and appreciated and loved, then your heart will open. the only response the heart knows is love. we must expand the center so the heart is not in us, in stead we dwell in our heart.

patanjali sutra 1: with prayers for divine blessings, now begins the instruction on yoga.

now is the here and now, an eternal point (eternity is now). yoga is here and now. the only place we can receive is in our heart, which is where our defenses are. we, as the divine, want to be cherished and adored, deeply known. there’s only one instruction on yoga, not instructions. After sutra 2, it is all commentary.

patanjali sutra 2: yoga is the restraint of movements in the consciousness.

i had a deep aha moment, when i read this and saw that it says nothing about thought, or stopping thoughts. and based on what mary said about being a creator, not a reactor, how our first job is to stay aware and not to react to our emotions, i had a realization that this sutra says that what yoga is is simply not reactiong, restraining the movements of consciousness. be still and know god. mary talked about restraining as more like watering, directing the water via irrigation systems to the vegetable, not simply spraying it everywhere.

patanjali sutra 3: practice and detachment are the means to still the movements of coinsciousness.

detachment means trusting that we are loved.

pradakshina - turning towards god - what takes us away from the true self, what takes us towards.

the problem is not with our emotions, it is with our reactions to them.

anger is not a feeling - usually it masks a fear. emotional attachments come from fear, which blocks and coagulates energy, and takes us out of ourselves.

wishing things were different is not accepting of the moment. accepting grounds you, wishing is fantasy world. we do not need to be more esoteric, we need to be more grounded. we have to ground our spirituality in real life. because the world is so hard we go into fantasy world, and we go there at the end of the exhale, where energy can get dissipated. root the energy so that it produces fruit, so it makes sweetness in the world. get rid of the ideal in your head, look at reality and accept it the way it is.

we have to do the work, we cannot expect anything of anybody else.

when we walk into a room, love, compassion, mercy should walk into the room with us.

tuesday

May 13th, 2008

been great, so great, and then this afternoon out of nowhere the blues hit. question is, can i control it, should i tell her.

nick was putting in a new bath this morning.

huntsville, again

May 7th, 2008

hip young people in the starbucks (remember, the one in kyle was playing mustt, mustt!) green tea, night-time now, you are dancing. drove to lampasas, hancock springs not open till memorial day, to georgetown, blue hole closed because of flooding, so onto huntsville, crazy driving. more crazier tomorrow. not as enjoyable as other trips, feels a little unfocussed. rain this morning that cleared by blanco even as i cursed my luck. always trust the universe.

talked to my lovely wife before sleep. i love her.

Del rio, swimming, pussy consciousness

May 7th, 2008

Actually bracketville, swimming at fort clark, the barton springs of hwy 90. Palm trees, cypress strange trapezoidal pool, cleaned on Thursdays. Pretty oasis in the flat mesquite ranchland. “When you cross Las Moras creek, your sins are washed away,” says the sign. Limestone fort buildings, the alternative balmorhea. At dusk, deer were roaming the grounds.

Slept bad, tv on in someone’s room.

Flash your pussy on town lake. Sweet sweet pussy, you sweet sexy girl. I love you. When I talk to luann I get confused. I talked to luann, she walking around silverlake while I was driving around uvalde. Then I talked to you, I was not confused, I love you.

Ruddy faced and feeling fat I am sitting in a motel 6 in kerrville missing you, feeling very disconnected while you eat dinner with kristen and the boys. Driving, swimming briefly, del rio to kerrville, nueces, frio, sabinal, guadalupe, camp wood, concan, utopia, camp verde. River roads and highways. Hope I can remember it all.

Birds birds birds. Tweeting loudly as I go to get the ipod from the car, still light outside. Bluejay, mockingbirds, sparrows, swallows, turkeys, vultures, roadrunners. And a fox or coyote between camp wood and leakey, I think.

crying

May 2nd, 2008

her turn… “i’m so tired of meeting your needs.”
what i heard… i have to verbalize my needs and take care of myself, but i have to ask you what you want and take care of you.
if i were you this would be very interesting to me.. so obviously to me about your mother.
i think she hears me through a very distorted veil of perception.
both of us think that the other does not own/recognize out “stuff.”
of course i think i bend over backwards to own my stuff.

i love this picture

April 29th, 2008

from the stock show last year at fort worth.

good god

April 29th, 2008

why did mike think that this was an appropriate message to send out to everybody?

I have first and second degree burns on my body. This is extremely painful for me, and frustrating. My sunburn took a turn for the worst more and more as Monday progressed. It managed to form many blisters, one of which is about half the size of an egg. The pain became so severe that I sought an expert opinion from a doctor. I will keep y’all posted with my condition.

town lake

April 29th, 2008

great to be up and out on a beautiful spring morning. met with raghurai and walked with luann around town lake and caught up with news on holly, miles and kelly, etc. kelly is planning on spending 6 months in marfa while fastball and the small stars tour. nice to be able to. i so want to take six months off and spend it in marfa or penucha or vermont and just.. let everything settle. lots of work for tm and yy…. hectic

luann and i have an easy communication and a shared frame of reference that i miss. we are at the stage of me being able to mention jodi and leo’s name. i talked about the work and she siad stick at it. we talked about old times and she said two things that seem relevant.. one was ‘there were lots of bad times, too’ and the other was ‘i loved how you left me alone.’ quite salutary to hear that. and… “i’ve decided 2008 is going to be a good year.” her tenant cougar (!) goes to bodychoir and is building a deck for her. magical mystical michael is good friends with lars. click goes the circle.

i’m glad we are friends. sometimes i wish things were different but it appears they are not. “despite everything, you still occupy a huge space in my heart.” i ate a huge cannolli from whole foods.